Today, I find myself thinking about a ring.
I don’t know what I’m doing with this whole blogging thing, where I’m going with it, or what I hope to gain. I’ve watched a lot of videos, read a lot of guides and even joined a “blogging network” that promises great results if you “just follow the simple formula”. Sound familiar? Yeah, a lot of party plan systems are sold that way too.
I’m a little ashamed of myself, really.
I am generally a skeptic of such things. I grew up poor. I know when something is being targeted at my sense of desperation – that deep seated belief that there’s no way out of your circumstances short of winning a lottery ticket. This “lottery ticket” scam is constantly repackaged and remarketed in some party plan or direct sales that inevitably sells itself with a sentence that includes both the words “easy” and “wealth”.
Let me just cut to the chase right here: There is no such thing. “Easy” and “wealth” never happen together unless you are talking about an easy labor for a Rockefeller. Wealth takes work. Moreover, as even the fine print on these “simple formula” systems will tell you, it is NEVER EVER guaranteed.
So, back to the ring.
I’m watching a video for this “blogging network” and it leads with A RING. The Million-Dollar Ring. They show these hip, glamorous, successful, super happy people who made a million dollars through this “simple formula” blogging system. To thank them for making the CEO a zillionaire, they were gifted a ring. A hideous, gaudy big-ass ring that they show off frequently and rub with pride. This blogging network isn’t the only MLM company out there who gives out a ring. I have a friend who “earned” a diamond ring from Mary Kay. It was given to her in a glamorous ceremony involving evening gowns and guys in tuxes. The dirty secret was that she went $16k in debt to get that ring and, I might add, it is ugly as sin. . The ring is a cheap, ugly piece of junk that you are using as a carrot to keep me in your money mill. I never wanted the ring. I am dazzled by the lifestyle it represents, but those are not the things I actually want.
What do I want?
- I want to able to afford to send my kids to private school.
- I want to pay off my college loans before I go to my 20-year reunion.
- I want to be able to afford a bigger house. Nothing huge, just something with a second bathroom so I no longer have to share with three penis people who can’t aim.
- I want to be able to afford vacations and holidays without using a credit card.
Okay, so maybe these are modest goals, but they are achievable with hard work (read: IT WILL NOT BE EASY or SIMPLE).
It IS important to dream big. Big dreams keep us going, but they need to be YOUR dreams.
I’m not signing up with a company who leads by telling me what my dreams should be because the chances of achieving those million dollar dreams are – let’s be honest, here – are slim.
I’m guessing your BIG DREAM isn’t really about having more money and luxury than you know what to do with. I’m guessing the money, if that’s a goal, is for something real and wonderful and close to your heart.
This brings me to one more ring. This one:
Right before I started my Pure Romance business, my husband and I lost a baby girl halfway through a pregnancy. We named her Ruby.
But I have a dream.
Someday, if I have the money, I want to adopt a little girl to give all that love I had stored up for my Ruby, to be the daughter I dreamed of and lost.
My husband gave me this ring as a memorial of Ruby and I wear it and remember that BIG DREAM of mine, and when things get tough, I knuckle down and work even harder at my business believing this $40k dream of mine is worth way more than the million dollar dream that someone else tried to tempt me with.
So when you are looking at one of these companies and feeling lost or if you are in one of these companies and feeling like you don’t know where you are going, stop looking at the golden ring they are offering you and remember the one you want for yourself. That’s the one that will keep you going. That’s one worth fighting for.
Tell me about your BIG DREAM. Is it the same as the one your company is offering or is it something personal? Do you believe you can achieve your dream? Why or why not?